Money Talks: Income, Love & the Support Systems That Hold Us
Recently in the Love Club (my online community & membership for love & joy) we have been having some ‘money talks’.
One of the members of the Love Club has been building her business—successfully gaining clients, but not yet making enough to fund a personal project. She's decided to pause and go back to contracting for a while. She feels at peace with the decision, but the money anxiety feels heavy. (Perhaps you can relate – many of the other members in the Love Club appreciated the question.)
I love a good money conversation. Especially when it comes to relationships. Because here's the truth: finances can be a source of tension in any relationship, and most of us aren't talking about it honestly enough.
So I want to share two perspectives that have helped me realign my own energy around money, abundance, and partnership. Two frameworks that bring me back to peace every single time money conversations feel heavy.
Money is Just One Support System (And Not Even the Most Important One)
Let me zoom out for a second.
Money is a resource. Income is an energy. But it's just one support system in the wider perspective of marriage, relationships, and family life.
In my relationship with James, there have been times when I've earned more than him. Times when he's earned more than me. And times (like now) when we see it all as one collective income—one big pot that supports our family. It doesn't matter who earns what or at what level. It's all income coming into the family system.
But here's what I want you to understand: money is not the only support system.
If you zoom out and look at the bigger picture, there are so many other ways we support each other:
• Emotional support - the listening, the holding space, the "I've got you" moments
• Physical support - the hugs, the kisses, the presence, the heavy lifting by James
• Practical support - I do the laundry, cooking, dog walking (to name a few), James does the cars, insurance, finances (to name a few)
• Mental support - the strategising together, the problem-solving and of course, the dreaming & drawing plans
• Energetic support - the belief in each other, the cheerleading, the "you've got this"
We all have roles. We all have responsibilities. We all provide different levels of support—not just financial.
So when money feels tight or heavy or like a source of tension, I ask myself: What are all the other ways we're supporting each other and this family?
Can you look at it more holistically? Can you see the full ecosystem of support that's holding you, your family, your dreams?
Because when you do, money becomes less of a monster and more of one thread in a beautiful tapestry.
Your Relationship with Money Matters More Than the Amount in Your Account
Here's the energetic truth: we attract money through our energy and the relationship we have with it.
If you're feeling resentment toward money—or toward your partner around money—that's an energetic block. That's a gate that's stopping the flow.
So how do you bring peace back?
First: Awareness and gratitude.
Move yourself into a state of recognition. How much income and money have you benefited from over the years? All the money that bought the clothes, the holidays, the meals, the school trips, the presents.. Can you bring yourself to a neutral space around money?
Money just is. It's energy. It's a resource you can tap into, like water, like air.
Can you receive it? Can you be the chief receiver of money? Are you okay with that? Because you can receive it freely and give it freely—without conditions, without keeping score.
{Funny side note: I once had a conversation with a private client where I asked her, "What would you do if someone knocked on your door with a box addressed to you, and inside was £1 million in cash?"
Without hesitation, she said she'd take it to the police station. She'd assume someone made a mistake.
The irony? It was addressed to her. But she couldn't receive it. She didn't believe it was meant for her.
That was the block we worked on—the worthiness, the allowing, the believing that good things, abundant things, miraculous things could actually be for her.}
And that's the thing about relationships and love: the minute we start putting conditions on it, contracts around it, tit-for-tat tallies—it becomes less about love. Because love is limitless. Love is unconditional.
Second: Reframe the conversation.
When James and I have had conversations about money that felt tense, I remind myself (and him): there are other support systems at play. I'm not just bringing money. He's not just bringing money. We're bringing our whole selves to this partnership.
Can you remove the blame or resentment from the other person and take ownership of your own relationship with money? Can you see it as a collective energy and support system rather than something to beat each other up about?
Third: Trust.
I trust money. Money always comes. There's always more money. Money will always be there to support me. Money comes. It just always has, and it always will.
To quote the wonderful Amanda Frances: Money comes.
That's it. That's the mantra. Money comes.
When I trust it to support me, it always does.
The Sobering Truth That Changes Everything
Now here's the second perspective I bring in when money conversations feel heavy. And this one is sobering, but it's also liberating.
If the only tension in my house is about money, I'm so fucking grateful.
I have lost dear friends to awful diagnoses. I'm witnessing friends having conversations about how to support their partners—wives and husbands—through terminal illnesses. I recently watched friends grieve the loss of their son in a car accident.
And you know what? I'll take the money conversation over any of those. Any day. Every time.
Whenever we have a conversation about money that causes tension, I sit there and bring peace and gratitude into my heart. Because that's what we're talking about. Not death. Not illness. Not loss. Money.
Money just is. And there's more of it. And I can tap into it. And I trust myself to make it. We can make it. I know we will always have money, and money will always be there to support us.
That's my sobering thought. That's what removes the charge. That's what helps me see clearly.
Bringing It All Together
So if you're in a season where money feels heavy, where the conversations feel tense, where you're making hard decisions about pausing something you love to go back to something more stable—I see you. I've been there.
Here's what I want you to remember:
1. Money is one support system among many. You are supported in so many ways. Acknowledge them all.
2. Your relationship with money matters. Bring awareness, gratitude, and trust to that relationship. Remove resentment. See money as energy that flows to you and through you.
3. Perspective is everything. If money is your biggest problem, you're actually incredibly blessed. Hold that truth with gratitude.
4. You are at peace with your decisions. Trust that. Your mind might give you roadblocks, but you can meet them with peace. You can say "I see you, I hear you, and I'm finding my way around you."
When we work with our minds, our hearts, our souls, and ourselves in alignment—when we're all singing from the same hymn sheet—that's where true peace lives.
Money anxiety doesn't have to be heavy. It can be a doorway to deeper trust, deeper gratitude, deeper alignment.
Money comes. Love flows. You are supported.
And so it is.
If this resonated with you and you want to dive deeper into money mindset, manifesting abundance, and creating a life of joy—join me in The Love Club. We have these kinds of conversations every week, and I'd love to support you.
Love & joy always,
Your joy coach - Ali xo 🌹
Money Blocked.
I stopped talking about money because people told me it wasn't "nice."
Family. Friends. Social media trolls. Even friend ‘trolls’! They all had opinions about me being open about abundance, wealth & money.
So I went quiet. And it made me so sad.
Because I LOVE money. I love manifesting it, spending it, investing it, giving it away generously.
Money = freedom. Money = choice. Money = support.
But I let shame silence me.
Not anymore.
I hope you enjoyed this blog, let me know if you did and if you want more money talks & conversations!
Your relationship with money matters. Let's keep talking about it.
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